There Are Beasts In My Stew

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13lizardsinatrenchcoat
probablyasocialecologist

Transphobia cannot be separated from fascism because it relies on white supremacist principles to function. There are two genders, male and female, each serving a singular biological purpose: the continuation of the race. Anything outside of that binary logic is broken or degenerate. And while not all transphobes might agree that this race must be white, it’s generally white beauty standards that transphobes choose to call upon when trying to determine what a woman is.

The rules prohibiting high levels of testosterone in sports are still more likely to eject black cis women than anybody else, while the assumption that ‘real women’ will always be shorter, smaller, and less hirsute than ‘women who actually men’ leads to the unfair and unnecessary scrutiny of (usually queer, non-white and/or disabled) women’s bodies, sometimes to the point of even the most slightly gender non-conforming cis women being attacked.

Maddison Stoff, Why gender essentialism is a white supremacist ideology

sparkerinparadise
mumblytron

There’s this weird culture of telling kids when they stress about school “u ain’t seen nothin yet hun! Wait till u do tax returns! Hahaha adulthood is fucking hell!” And i hate it b/c 

 1) it’s flat out untrue. Adulthood is a breeze compared to school. I have time to myself to do what I find fun and can make my own choices. Like, yeah, I’m poor and have to take care of myself, but the central activity of my life– work – is waaaaaay easier than school, mentally and emotionally. 

 2) Part of the reason school made me anxious to the point of considering suicide is that I had this wrong idea, drilled into my head by YEARS of people saying this, that if I didn’t do well in school, I would be a useless member of society, unable to be productive or do anything meaningful. Failing a class meant I might as well be dead. That’s the false equivalence this culture creates. But grades don’t mean SHIT in the workforce unless you’re trying to become a college professor or do something that requires a hella advanced degree. 

 3) it helps no one to say this! All it does is give mentally ill children, most of whom are already struggling to get through the DAY, the idea that it will only get much, much worse. I know I couldn’t cope with that thought. Any future planning past my 20s was blocked out in a haze of terror at the thought of having to persevere that long, only to get a shittier situation at the end. But it’s not shittier. I have to be more responsible, but this is a piece of goddamn cake compared to even High School. The only reason to say this to a teenager is to inflate your own sense of superiority over someone who is still learning how the world works.

 So like. Can we kill this culture? Please?

saintjosie

Anonymous asked:

TIL that hormone replacement therapy is used by older women when going through the menopause to ease symptoms. i learnt this from my mother who is a retired nurse who is now a medical advocate for older women and she's big mad about how hrt has been demonised the scary "trans treatment" when in her mind its a marvellous bit of modern medicine that can improve the lives of so many for whatever reasons they need it. more estrogen (or testosterone) for all!

kdinjenzen answered:

Yup cis men and cis women are prescribed testosterone, estrogen, etc for a variety of reasons.

saintjosie

just a reminder that cis people who are receiving hormones to feel more like themselves are receiving GENDER AFFIRMING CARE. in fact, most of the people who receive gender affirming care are CIS PEOPLE.

joe rogan talks about taking testosterone all the time to feel more like a man = gender affirming care

old men taking boner pills cause they can’t get it up = gender affirming care

cis women taking spironalactone for their pcos = gender affirming care

women who reached menopause taking hormones = gender affirming care

gender affirming care is actually SO INCREDIBLY NORMAL and trans people are the ones getting demonized for it.

bamsara
sitronsangthoughts

I've seen a fair amount of fat liberation activists explain that they have always been fat, they're not about to stop, and that's natural and beautiful and fine. That's an incredibly important message.

What I've seen less - and what I want to remind people of - is this: if you've become fat, that's also natural and beautiful and fine.

When you're a fat person who has been thin in the past, that comes with its own brand of shaming. People take your history of thinness as proof that you don't have to be fat. You often fear the look of disappointed surprise in the eyes of someone you haven't met since you were thin. People try to determine "what happened". They don't see your fat body as just you, but as a sort of symptom that isn't part of you.

Becoming fat is not a tragedy, it's not a sign of failure, it's not a bad or shameful thing. The thin you is not the Real you. You are always real and always worthy of freedom, respect and peace. You are allowed to be fat no matter how or when you became fat.

deliciouslyenchantingpenguin
shorteststory

every tiktok expert: make short fun videos 9-15 seconds long

me: how about a 2-minute spoken word monolog about unlearning trauma responses?

in case no one told you, or in case you know but you need encouragement taking the next step: it’s never too late to unlearn a law that is now holding you back, it’s never too late to write a new law

caffeinewitchcraft

Genuinely one of the best things I’ve heard in forever. Not only the content, but the structure of every sentence, the delivery, the pacing, everything is impeccable.

naamahdarling

Oh this is so so good.

headspace-hotel
animentality

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headspace-hotel

I have to add that gender euphoria for cis people doesn't always come from like, conforming to your gender in a "stereotypical" way

I've always been very comfortable with my gender but I didn't Really Like being a woman until I cut my hair short and started dressing/presenting more "masculine."

When i realized that I could look "manly" as a woman I truly felt comfortable and really...more "like" a woman. I enjoy being masculine and it strengthens my connection to womanhood and it's just kinda cool

modmad
thoughtportal

join a union

the power of collection action

queen-mabs-revenge

the power of withdrawing your labor collectively

this is such a good interview because he’s basically narrating the reason why the working class is actually the most powerful force in society. by striking and shutting down production, the writers are showing that they are truly the profit producers because when they withdraw their labor profits don’t get made. and by withdrawing their labor they flex their power as the gears grind to a halt.

it can be the same for climate change if the same tactics were applied instead of trying to always approach things from an individualist or consumer activist standpoint. fossil fuel workers withdrawing their labor and inviting other unions and members of public to join and/or support the pickets in solidarity would actually grind the system to a halt. manufacturing workers withdrawing their labor and demanding their workplaces be refitted to manufacture parts for renewable energy could tip the scales.

we’ve had decades of propaganda trying to destroy class identity so that people feel like the only thing they can do is buy reusable straws and perform stunts. we make change by demanding collective, democratic control over production, not hoping we can consume in the right way.

bluesunlight12
transmerlins

i think that… approximately 100% of the time, parents, teachers, etc… have this misconception that neurodivergent kids & teens don’t know anything about how to handle their neurodivergence.

for years, i suffered through people making suggestions of things that were things i had done, and either weren’t worth the effort or they actually made things worse. i told them this, and if i was still having any issues with the same problem they’d say something about “well if you’re not gonna listen to any suggestions…” when I did. they’re the one who didn’t listen when i told them that doesn’t work for me. They assume that because I didn’t try it in front of them (which is often impossible), I never tried it.
I tried doing my homework as soon as I got home. I tried doing my homework at the table, I tried working where I was comfortable. I tried listening to music, I tried working in silence. I tried using a planner, I tried setting reminders on my phone, I tried. I tell people that I have executive functioning issues and they say that I have to work on it like I haven’t been doing that as long as I’ve had to do things and it’s so much better than it was before. I’m as able as I am now because I’ve spent 18 years working on it.

One of my friends has ADHD, and at one point when her grades dropped her parents took her phone, despite her telling them that the only way she can focus on her homework is to listen to music, for which she needs her phone.

I was in a study hall with another friend, who also has ADHD. Sometimes, they would be able to focus and do their work. Others, they would end up being entirely unable to and would do other stuff. The “instructional support” person would start bothering them about it, insist that they try. As if they hadn’t already done so.

I am tired of watching people assume that neurodivergent people aren’t trying, or we haven’t tried. We’re always trying.

equality-is-anarchy

Fucking this

doomhamster

Also: after thirty-mumble years of living with autism, I CAN in fact usually tell right away when trying - trying AT THAT PARTICULAR TASK, AT THAT PARTICULAR TIME, IN THAT PARTICULAR WAY - is going to be useless. Just like someone who’d been living with chronic pain for an equal amount of time would be able to tell the difference between a “I can manage if I’m careful and conserve energy” day and a “not going to happen” day. 

It’s not being “lazy” or “defeatist” or “not showing the right attitude”. It’s being unwilling to throw good energy after bad in order to satisfy some NT person’s need to make sure we’re “trying hard enough”. 

anyawen

I cannot tell you how helpful posts like these have been for me as I’ve been on the sidelines trying to cheer my depressed, ADHD, possibly neurodivergent child through life. I *know* he’s trying. It doesn’t always look like it, but I know he’s giving it everything he has. Sometimes that results in an hour of work on an art project with glorious progress, sometimes it means a shower, sometimes it means being ready for something on time, sometimes it means a day of playing kirby games. Whatever it is, and no matter how ‘easy’ it might be for me, it’s very obviously heavy work for him.

I wish I could do some of the lifting for him. All I can do is acknowledge his effort, regardless of the outcome.

brightlotusmoon

Like, it’s one thing to remind me of a treatment I had completely forgotten about trying. It’s another to demand I try things I know I’ve already explained won’t work.

And it is indeed heavy. It’s exhausting. I tell my physical therapist and my pain clinician that sometimes I wind up sleeping all day just because the fatigue is overwhelming, and they just keep gently and kindly telling me that it is okay to rest, that my recover times will be completely different from neurotypicals and even other neurodivergents. They don’t think I’m self harming, they don’t think my insomnia is threatening, they know I’m the type of person to wake up at four in the morning to write something and get caught up in an hour of writing.

That’s all I want. To be assured that I’m not going to be punished for not fully performing my duties as a functioning member of society.